hit counter



Home ] Sponsors Aides ] Sponsorship Topics ] Recovery Retreats ] Big Book Aides ] StepWork ] Spiritual Aides ] Prayers ] For The Slipper ] Tools ] Downloads ] Recovery Voices ] SlowGuns ] 12 Step History ] 12 Step Programs ] All The 12's ] Affirmations ] Poems ] Quizzes ] Sober Giggles ] Help ] Links ] Awards ] Resources ] Donations ] Contact Us ]

horizontal rule

"We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn't treat sick people that way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful."

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 67~

       Forgiveness is for “me” to

        -         Give up the Right –

 §       To hurt someone back…

horizontal rule

Resentment is self-inflicted punishment,

For the perceived wrongs of another.

 It does no harm to the other, while tearing the self apart.

 It Destroys Serenity, Health, Effectiveness, Peace.

 Resentment leads from hurt, to anger, to hostility, to rationalization, to drink, or other destructive behaviors.

If you have a resentment you want to be free of,
if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent,
you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything
you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free.
Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free.
Even when you don't really want it for them,
and your prayers are only words and you don't mean it,
go ahead and do it anyway. Do it every day for two weeks
and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them,
and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment
and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.

 from p. 552 of Alcoholics Anonymous, the Big Book of AA

horizontal rule

Fighting – Attraction - bitterness

"Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help the public to
a better realization of the gravity of the alcoholic problem, but we
shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or
hostility. Drinkers will not stand for it.

After all, our problems were of our own making. Bottles were only a
symbol. Besides, we have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We
have to!"    Big Book Of AA

horizontal rule

Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect
produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they
admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the
true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only
normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless
they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes
at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others
taking with impunity."

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The Doctor's Opinion, pg. xxviii~

horizontal rule

Looking For More Sponsorship Topics?  Click Desired Link Below:

AshTray Change • Alcohol Presence • Temptation • Staying Clean Tips • Talk About It • Thoughts • 90 Tools of Sobriety • 90 Tools for OA • Carrots • Handling Anger • About Resentment • Stress Reduction • Find Your Passions • Self Help Articles • 10 Demandments

horizontal rule

Your new ad!

Your new ad!

Our main purpose is to support all 12 step programs and people in all stages of recovery. All views and opinions in The Sponsors Aide represent those of the writer's only and do not represent anything else unless otherwise identified by comment.  We hope this site helps.  This website is not intended to replace a sponsor, but rather to aide you and your sponsor in recovery.  This is just a way to start working the steps, and share in someone else's experience, strength and hope. 

horizontal rule

Click on the Email Picture above to email me.

This Website was last updated on:  June 17, 2008

Unofficial AA logo

    Disclaimer: This site is NOT endorsed nor sponsored by Alcoholics Anonymous or any group and is not intended to offer specific advice to persons in recovery or contemplating recovery. This site DOES, however, attempt to follow the 12 Traditions of AA. Contact your local Alcoholics Anonymous Intergroup Office for direct info on AA, for info on meetings in your area, and if you'd like to speak with someone regarding alcoholism. This site is produced in the spirit of AA's Twelfth Step - to carry the message. When reading the experience, strength and hope on this site, we remind you that AA's "public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films."