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My Bill of Rights

I have the right to be treated with respect.
I have the right to say no and not feel guilty.
I have the right to experience and express my feelings.
I have the right to take time for myself.
I have the right to ask for what I want.
I have the right to ask for information.
I have the right to make mistakes.
I have the right to do less than I am humanly capable of.
I have the right to feel good about myself.
I have the right to act only in ways that promote my dignity and self-respect as long as others are not violated in the process.

You are reading from the book:
Twelve Step Prayer Book - Second Edition
Copyright 2004, Hazelden Foundation.

My Personal rights

I have the right to control my life, therefore I have the right to…

Ask for what I want.

To say “No” and not feel guilty.

To decide how I spend my own time.

To make mistakes.

To ask questions.

To change my mind.

To say “I don’t know.”

To think before I act.

To ask for Help.

To be treated with respect.

To feel good about myself.

To decide if I want to assert a personal right.


 Source:  Concept of “Personal Rights” from:  Lange & Jakubowski.  “Responsible Behavior”



 I am happy NOW.  I do not have to wait for my alcoholic parent to recovery.  I do have to defer my own happiness to accommodate someone else’s schedule.  I can be happy now.

 I have a right to pursue a productive, fulfilling life.  I have a right to pursue a life or health and sanity without feeling guilty because others remain stuck.  I can make changes and live the way I want to.  My happiness is not dependent upon my parents’ sobriety, recovery or acknowledgement of their problem.

 I can detach.  I can refuse to participate in destructive behavior.  I can resist the temptation to be the “fixer” or the “victim” or the “superhero”.  I trust my feelings to help me know when to detach.

 Today I decide to be happy!  Today I decide that my parents’ problems belong to them and not to me.  I feel free and enthusiastic and I bless myself, my family, and this day.

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This Website was last updated on:  March 23, 2008

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