following are the Prayers in the first 164 pages of the Big Book. The
numbers show the page and paragraph.
I was to sit quietly when in doubt, asking only for direction and strength
to meet my problems as He would have me. Never was I to pray for myself,
except as my requests bore on my usefulness to others. Then only might I
expect to receive. But that would be in great measure.
Admitted to God, Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings, Sought
through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as
we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the
power to carry that out.
"God, I offer myself to Thee-to build with me and to do with me as
Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy
will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness
to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I
do Thy will always!"
We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience
that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we
said to ourselves, "This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him?
God save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would
have us be.
we treat sex as we would any other problem. In meditation, we ask God what
we should do about each specific matter. The right answer will come, if we
To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance
in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the
(Returning home) We thank God from the bottom of our heart that we know
If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God to help us
(When willing to let go) "My Creator, I am now willing that you
should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me
every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness
to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do
your bidding. Amen."
(Steps Eight and Nine) If we haven't the will to do this, we ask until it
comes. Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths
for victory over alcohol.
(Before making decision to make drastic amends) asked God to help
(Potentially harmful amends to spouse) Each might pray about it, having
the other one's happiness uppermost in mind.
asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of
patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.
Step Ten, We have entered the world of the Spirit. Continue to watch for
selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask
God at once to remove them. Love and tolerance of others is our code.
Step Eleven suggests prayer and meditation. We shouldn't be shy on this
matter of prayer. Better men than we are using it constantly. It works, if
we have the proper attitude and work at it.
(On awakening) Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking,
especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or
We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for
inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it
easy. We don't struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come
after we have tried this for a while.
We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be
shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given
whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for
freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves
only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are
careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a
lot of time doing that and it doesn't work. You can easily see why.
If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in
morning meditation. If we belong to a religious denomination which
requires a definite morning devotion, we attend to that also. If not
members of religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a few set
prayers which emphasize the principles we have been discussing. There are
many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from
one's priest, minister, or rabbi. Be quick to see where religious people
are right. Make use of what they offer.
As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for
the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no
longer/ 88:0 running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each
day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of
excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become
much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up
energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit
We have told innumerable lies to protect our pride and our husbands'
reputations. We have prayed, we have begged, we have been patient.
I've prayed to God on hangover mornings and sworn that I'd never touch
another drop but by nine o'clock I'd be boiled as an owl."
Ask Him in your morning meditation what you can do each day for the man
who is still sick. The answers will come, if your own house is in order.
But obviously you cannot transmit something you haven't got. See to it
that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to
pass for you and countless others. This is the Great Fact for us.