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STEP EIGHT

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, possible except when to do so would injure them or others.

BOOK REFERENCES: 

STEP 8

AA:  Chapter 6 - Into Action (Page 76, line 15 Thru: Page 82)

         12 & 12:  Step 8

More Big Book References:  Amends: 64, 70, 111, 145, 151, 187, 227, 277, 311

The eighth step list is usually created from the fourth step.  It is simply just making a list.  That is the first part of the step.  Take your time.  Do the readings and consider all the thoughts.  Ask your sponsor about any questions you have. 

The best thing I can say about making amends I wrote in a letter to a sponsee.  Check it out:  

     I am very happy to hear that you are making amends and doing what you need to do.  Please remember, when you make these amends, they are not for the other person...but for you.  You do not need anyone to accept or deny your apologies/or amends.  You only need to complete your amends, so that you know that you are keeping your side of the street clean.  You need to know that you have done wrong by many, as well as you need to know that you were mature enough and responsible enough to make your amends for the wreckage of your past.   Try not to let the reactions of others affect the action you are committing.  Weather someone likes it or not, approves of it or not, does not matter...the real thing is that you disapprove of your past behavior, and you know you are making amends for them.  Do not let Self-seeking interfere with the positive characteristics of your present actions.  You need no approval...you only need do what you need to do.  Most people usually come around after we have been clean and on our own for awhile anyway. 

 Feel comforted in knowing that I am proud of your present actions, and I love you either way. 

                         Your Sponsor and Friend  

Printable file for the 8th step from the BIBLE BASED side

"Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow
toward it. We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing."

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 69~

BOOK REFERENCES: 

STEP 9

 AA:  Chapter 6 - Into Action (Page 82, line 17 Thru: Page 84, line 15)

         12 & 12:  Step 9

   

 

 


DRAonline Step 9

Recovery from Guilt (STEPS 4-9)

Clarence S. List Of Character Defects

This is simply about making a list!  The Big Book says, “We made it when we took inventory.”  (BB Step 8)  I have discovered that, “…during a score of years after those words were published, AA's observed that some folks harmed were not resented, feared or sex objects – the parts of the Big Book format.  Therefore, a significant update appeared in the 12 & 12’s step 8.  About the amends list, ‘To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt, and in what what.’”  The 12 and 12 discusses emotional and other damage to those not necessarily resented.  We sincerely inteded to love many people, but actually abused them with alcoholic (or addict) behavior.  Do not yet be concerned with whether or not you should, could or would be willing or able to make the amends.  First Things First…Just make the List!

It is possible to change without improving - it is impossible to improve without change

"In this book you read again and again that faith did for us what we could not do for ourselves. We hope you are convinced now that God can remove whatever self-will has blocked you off from Him. If you have already made a decision, and an inventory of your grosser handicaps,
you have made a good beginning. That being so you have swallowed and digested some big chunks of truth about yourself."

~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, How It Works, pg. 70~

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